I’ve noticed myself saying “remember?” significantly more to Dad in the last few weeks and months;
“remember that …”
“do you remember when..?”
“we spoke about this, don’t you remember” etc…
I need to stop this. Immediately.
I’m not even saying it consciously or with stress , malice or frustration.. it’s completely with love and trying to understand and drive conversations forward. His memory is getting worse; short term details will be often be forever lost.
Asking if he remembers, is like asking a deaf person if they heard what someone said. It’s cruel, confusing and insensitive. No, he doesn’t remember – idiot (me).
Sounds stupid but maybe I’ve just wanted him to remember but it’s not fair anymore.
Solutions are needed. iPad is one, notes are others… I guess that’s a step forward. But what else could help?